Alumni who have successfully navigated the complexities of a detox or residential treatment program are not “done” with recovery. New challenges and transformations still await. These changes can fundamentally affect daily life in many ways, with many worrying that their newfound sobriety may make them “stand out” among friends or in social settings. However, worries about standing out can often be misplaced. Shifting your perspective and employing strategies as an alumnus can empower you to maintain confidence in your sobriety and navigate social settings that may otherwise be intimidating, or even while addictive substances may be present.
Concerns of Standing Out
The idea that sobriety will make someone “different” can be intimidating. However, it is important to remember that your sober transformations should always be celebrated, not hidden. Hard-earned sobriety is nothing to be ashamed of, and shifting your perspective can empower you to surround yourself with peers who share this idea, rather than ostracize you for your sober choices and journey.
However, these feelings can still be incredibly difficult to shake. You may feel that you are the center of attention, or that you are somehow negatively impacting another person or inconveniencing them by having social gatherings accommodate your sobriety. Others may feel that they are disconnected from peers or friends due to their sober decisions, especially while attending functions where addictive substances are present, such as weddings, holiday parties, or birthdays.
Lastly, you may also be concerned about standing out too much if it means that you will be questioned or confronted about your use, feel urged to bring back bad memories, or that you have to somehow “justify” yourself in sobriety.
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More infoConsequences of Worrying
Alumni already have to navigate any number of stresses and challenges as they maintain their sobriety, and concerns about standing out can add to an already challenging daily life. Those who are concerned if they are standing out may experience:
- Increased anxiety
- Avoidance of social situations or increase in social anxiety
- Unnecessary stress
- Being overly critical of own behaviors or social presence
Overcoming worries about standing out can be paramount for adopting a healthy perspective and social life. At Hawaii Island Recovery, there are always resources to explore and communities to engage in to effectively change your perspective and overcome worries about standing out in sobriety.
Focusing On Self-Acceptance
Recovery and sobriety are personal journeys, and focusing on self-acceptance rather than fitting into others’ norms and expectations can be a necessary shift in perspective. You are pursuing a life of sobriety for yourself, not for others, and there is nobody who can navigate a sober life for another. Self-acceptance champions this necessary shift in perspective by empowering you to see your sober transformation not as a negative that makes you stand out for being different, but rather empowers you to take pride in yourself for accomplishing such a difficult goal.
Moreover, positive self-talk, daily affirmations, and communication with trusted supports can all help you focus on self-acceptance in sobriety.
Overcome Standing Out by Managing Social Groups
While difficult, you may not necessarily fit into the same social groups as you did when you were engaging with addictive substances. If you find that you are constantly worried about standing out due to your sobriety in a specific social group, avoiding this group may be necessary going forward. Unfortunately, those who have not lived through the recovery process or navigated addiction may not fully understand the need for a sober life. Setting boundaries and exploring new social groups at Hawaii Island Recovery can help alumni create a healthier approach to addressing social needs without concerns about standing out.
Celebrate Accomplishments
You may also feel worried about standing out due to your sobriety if you are concerned that you are going to be judged or questioned about past mistakes. Celebrating sober accomplishments can be a great way to contextualize your sober journey thus far, and take pride in your role as an alumnus in sobriety. Sober birthdays, rekindled relationships, new holiday traditions, and more can all be celebrated to help shift your perspective surrounding your sobriety from past regrets to present accomplishments and triumphs.
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More infoLook at the Situation
Many of those who worry about standing out in sobriety may not necessarily need to harbor such feelings. Finding a way to objectively view the actions of others can illuminate if such worries are founded, or if they are due to their interpretation of events that may not necessarily be backed by evidence. If you are concerned about standing out, you may make assumptions or inferences that may not be reflected in the actions of others, and exploring ways to objectively view such interactions can empower you to determine if you are truly standing out or experiencing elevated anxiety around the possibility.
Furthermore, using journals to record events, attending functions with dedicated supports, and continuing to work with recovery professionals can all be great ways of discovering if you are worried about standing out due to your interpretation or perspective. Without evidence to back such notions, you can better challenge these notions and feelings and shift your perspective to foster these relationships while maintaining your hard-earned sobriety.
Standing out in sobriety can be intimidating, and it can be difficult to predict how others may react to an individual’s newfound sobriety, or how an individual themselves will adjust to the newfound expectations, responsibilities, and accountability in sobriety. At Hawaii Island Recovery, we welcome the opportunity to help alumni of any dedicated treatment program address these challenges and overcome a fear of success in sobriety. Our comprehensive and communal approach to continued recovery and support empowers each person to address all of their needs while pursuing a sober life, including how fears of success may otherwise inhibit their own sober goals. For more information on how we can help you, call to speak to us today at (866) 390-5070.